Say yes.

I never had a story to tell. I always dreamed of becoming a writer but when I thought through that romantic idea of holing up in a cabin in the woods to put myself to work, I couldn’t imagine any words that would touch the pages. I’d had no hardships. I’d hardly even had love. My parents are still married. I’ve never lost someone close to me to death. I have two brothers with whom my relationship...

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Never for money / Always for love

Why do we think we deserve everything? There was a time when people just lived. They went through the motions; they worked their jobs; they married somebody, whether they loved them or not. It was simple. It was life. It probably wasn't happiness, but the path was laid out for them. And the questions weren't so existential. It's different today for us. We are a generation of wanting it all. We won't...

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De(com)pressed

I've been avoiding writing about Burning Man this year because most of my post-burn thoughts are about the post-burn, not the burn itself. The week on playa I can sum up in a few sentences: I had an amazing time with my best friends, saw more art this year, treated my body better and got married to a very dear friend. I felt bonds with certain friends grow stronger. I realized I might be a bit of...

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The best part about making a list

We all want to be somebody. There is this idea ingrained in us from movies and our idols and our parents that we can leave a legacy behind, no matter who we are. That we can be remembered. So maybe it starts out big, with the dream of being a famous actress. And then when you get a bit older and realize how big that childhood dream was, you start to think about a more subtle legacy, like writing a...

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You don't always get what you give

"Selfishness is not necessarily a bad thing. None of us can really help the way our brain processes the world and selfishness just means that you are at the center of your own." A friend of mine said this to me when we were discussing why it's hard to get what you need from someone who is too selfish to make time for others, lest they miss something better. I do think he's right that we're wired...

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Love is a luxury

It's been a long time since I've been in love. So long that I can't even remember what it feels like to love someone. I used to believe that love was all there is. I believed that our lives would only be truly fulfilled when we found someone to share them with. I believed that my life would be incomplete and sad and empty if I was alone. But I've been alone for many years and what I've learned is...

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Go down with the ship

I have a lot of flaws but one thing I am not is a flake. If there is a chance I don't think I'll follow through on something, I won't promise it. I believe in keeping your word and most importantly, I believe in loyalty. A loyalist. That's what the enneagram told me I am. It's a hippy dippy personality model that my dear hippy dippy friend Taran showed me early in college. I probably scoffed at it...

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